What do you value?

OK. This post is a piggie-back of the dialogue started under Mr. Gregory Dicks' page.

I believe we can all identify the problems in a relationship. What I’d like to offer is what I believe is a solution. It’s critically important to identify what you value in a relationship before choosing a mate. If you don't know what you value then you'll settle for what pleases at the moment. I was blessed to be able to identify what I value at the age of 30. Late, but better than never! It was life changing. Once you identify what you value and then you measure every(one or thing) against your values - it either matches up or it doesn't! There's no process of wait and see or any probationary-maybe-it/he/she'll-get-better period. You know right away. Now THERE'S where my problem came in!! At 30 I'd already been married for 5 years and then went through this 12 wk program and discovered what I value in a man, in a relationship, in a marriage. I was sick to look at my life and understand CLEARLY for the first time that how I was living and what I said I valued didn't match up??!!!! I tried, then, for the next 10 years to make how I was living and what I value match. I believe ... the same as I believe that Jesus is the son of God ... that if you identify what you value in a thing - and then you live your life to what you value ... you will ALWAYS be happy. It's my gospel. After ten years, I couldn't get it to match, so I had to make some hard choices and some hard changes to make them match. I am very happy now. I'm trying to develop a program to teach values identification to pre-teens and teens ... that is the age at which time we start to navigate relationships with the opposite sex and start venturing into the work force. Man, I could go on and on about it ... and I do ... to anyone who'll listen because I'm really passionate about it. I believe it'll prevent teenage pregnancies and teenage abuse and generally create a more satisfied generation of people as they mature ... cause when you're happy, you don't tend to hate on other people, ya know?

Bisous